How to Redefine Your Success
I’m on Day 11 of 14-day water only detox. 😬Granted, the water varies from spring to distilled to coconut. No matter what type of water, it’s still just WATER!
Why on earth…? I hear my grandmother turning in her grave, as they say.
The reason is simple to understand. It’s the execution and consistent follow-through that tax the mind and require a lot of fortitude.
For the past several years, I’ve been having a variety of health challenges.
Nothing fatal…I’m still here!
Conventional medicine couldn’t give me any answers but prescribed a load of creams, pills, and drops to address the different symptoms. When one doctor encouraged me to start a regimen of injections for a skin condition that they couldn’t figure out, I drew the line. No more!
I knew that I needed to make a major lifestyle change. After watching way too many Netflix documentaries, I decided to begin with food.
You may be wondering, "What does this have to do with your entrepreneurial journey?"
EVERYTHING. As a business owner, everything I do to improve (or worsen) myself, bears on my work.
We must do away with any separation-of-church-and-state type thinking for the self-employed. While growing a business, there is total integration of who you are and what you value in the development of work culture, which includes all aspects of the business. As you scale, and have less immediate contact with every aspect of the work, your guiding values remain and through regular vision casting, lead your team.
So, after over a year of investigating and considering my options, I chose this time to start anew. I've learned a thing or two about myself and my values on the journey so far. I have also identified steps that have helped me to redefine my perspective on success.
Y'all know the deal...what I learn, I share.
GET OUT OF THE WHIRLWIND
Whenever you are attempting to redefine any area of life, detachment is required. If you’re trying to kick a coffee habit, you can’t keep going to Starbucks for your tea. Eventually, the smooth, robust aroma of that old, java friend will lure you back into a three-cups-a-day habit.
Take some time off from the influences that have sourced your success picture in the past. It could be people in your circle and the lives they live or material things that you have or want to have. Whether or not these align with your core values, it will become clear during your time apart.
DEFINE YOUR SUCCESS
Begin to dream a little bit. Imagine what your life would look like if there were no obstacles or issues. Every necessary resource to accomplish your dream would be available to you. Sit with that limitless dream.
Then ask yourself, “Is that what I want to pursue?”
Unconsciously, each of us is deeply influenced by the culture around us. You may find, like I did, that some parts of the old success definition were based upon what you thought you should want. Don’t adopt someone else’s definition as your own. Outline what you want based upon your values, ideas, the stage of life that you’re in, and how much you’re willing to invest in the journey.
MAKE THE VISION PLAIN
Write it down. Write out your vision for success on your own terms. Be specific. I realized that I want to be able to not work on my business on the weekends. It’s draining and affects my ability to be present with my family. So, I set boundaries on my “hustle” and it’s not for the weekends.
This exercise helped me to also further distinguish between working on and in my business. I totally enjoy working in my business doing weekend trainings and speaking engagements. Those energizes me because I love equipping people. And they tend to take a finite amount of time away from my family.
It’s frustrating to realize how many items in life have become priority that don’t have the same value to you that they once had. They remained a priority out of tradition or obligation at times. Sometimes we unawares adopt someone else’s priority also.
Am I the only one who’s experienced this? 🤨
This exercise helps to clear the field so that you can clearly prioritize your actions based upon what you deem most important and where you want to see yourself in the future. I try to set only a few top priorities. After my faith, it’s my health, family, then business. This doesn’t mean that other areas of my life aren't important. However, when something comes up to infringe on my time and it’s not among the top three, it is easy for me to place it.
Food was very important to me before this detox. I never noticed what a large part of my life it consumed. Most of my life revolved around it...planning, shopping, prepping, cooking, and serving it. But it was guided by my appetite and what tasted good to me. When I made a priority shift, I began to view food as fuel that can be pleasurable...rather than as pleasure that could fuel me. (Revolutionary concept in a culture with several eateries per city block.)
I've also found my confidence enlarging on this journey. As I press through each challenging moment, when I want to reach for a sweet treat, I remind myself of my priority, my health. Confidence swells. Being healthy enough to run multiple businesses for the next several decades is part of my success definition. There is empowerment in the process of redefining success on one's own terms.
How do you define success? Not sure? Take some time alone for a couple of hours to venture through these steps. Let this be a regular activity, annually or bi-annually. As life changes, so may your priorities and your perspective on success, like it has for me. Don't be afraid to edit and redefine success, again.
Let me know how it goes.
Until next time…